Condensation | Code | Subtheme | Theme | |
They have their life of course. I don’t know you’re not that necessary when you’re older. | not necessary for the children | missing the children | experience of longing | Changed relations within the family |
If one of the girls answered she did not talk to them much, just, “Hi, it’s Grandma and then she just asked for me.” | she just said “hi” and asked for their mother | stopped talking to the grandchildren | experience of lost closeness | |
Of course it would mean that you have someone to share the experience with, but if you are an only child, then you’re alone. | missing someone to share the experience with | being alone with the experience | experience of loneliness | |
It works better with my sister and my brothers. They do not do stuff like helping mother shower and that kind of stuff so they don’t notice. | brothers do not notice the changes | siblings have different roles | experience of changed sibling relationships | |
It’s important that you have support, that you have friends but especially family; aunts and uncles, they kept in touch all the time. | Important with friends but family is more important | family is important | experience of kinship | Supporting relationships within the family |
Last time my sister and I were there together, in a way, we can take turns talking to mother. | visits together and take turns talking | helping each other | experience of shared responsabilities | |
You see, he still gets over the moon when the girls visit, and that is important. | overjoyed when the girls come home | happy when the girls come | experience of love and appreciation |