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They have their life of course. I don’t know you’re not that necessary when you’re older.

not necessary for the children

missing the children

experience of longing

Changed relations within the family

If one of the girls answered she did not talk to them much, just, “Hi, it’s Grandma and then she just asked for me.”

she just said “hi” and asked for their mother

stopped talking to the grandchildren

experience of lost closeness

Of course it would mean that you have someone to share the experience with, but if you are an only child, then you’re alone.

missing someone to share the experience with

being alone with the experience

experience of loneliness

It works better with my sister and my brothers. They do not do stuff like helping mother shower and that kind of stuff so they don’t notice.

brothers do not notice the changes

siblings have different roles

experience of changed sibling relationships

It’s important that you have support, that you have friends but especially family; aunts and uncles, they kept in touch all the time.

Important with friends but family is more important

family is important

experience of kinship

Supporting relationships within the family

Last time my sister and I were there together, in a way, we can take turns talking to mother.

visits together and take turns talking

helping each other

experience of shared responsabilities

You see, he still gets over the moon when the girls visit, and that is important.

overjoyed when the girls come home

happy when the girls come

experience of love and appreciation